Online Couples Therapy: Does It Work and Is It Right for You?

Finding time for counselling is hard when you work shifts or live in different countries. Online couples therapy can make it possible.

Imagine you work nights in Dubai and your husband works days in Lagos. In-person counselling is impossible, but a video session on a Sunday morning works for both of you.

How it works

• Video sessions with a therapist from home
• Some services also offer messaging or phone sessions
• Partners can join from the same room or different places

Does it work?

Research on online therapy, including for couples, suggests it can be effective for many people, especially when the therapist is qualified and the connection is good.

Pros

• Flexible times for shift workers
• Works for long-distance couples
• No travel
• Can feel easier to open up at home

Cons

• Needs privacy and a stable connection
• Body language is harder to read
• Not suitable where there is abuse or safety risk
• Therapist may be regulated in a different country

Choosing a therapist

• Check registration with a recognised professional body
• Ask about couples training and experience
• Ask about privacy and data security
• Check fees and cancellation rules

Frequently asked questions

Are therapy apps the same as therapy?

Not always. Some apps offer coaching rather than therapy. Check qualifications.

Can we do it from different countries?

Often yes, but check the therapist can legally practise with clients where you live.

But won’t it feel awkward on video?

Most couples settle in after one or two sessions.

Sources: American Psychological Association, British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.